The holidays are to be a time of joy and celebration, at least that is what we are told on the many programs, cards and decorations that inundate us this part of the year. And yet, many people who are facing personal struggles find that it is difficult to go through the season with good cheer and a light heart. Personal trials change us and trying to conceive definitely falls into that category.
I think that we would all agree that “infertility” touches wonderful, deserving couples and the experience is one that requires every ounce of strength to endure. Unfortunately as you spend extended lengths of time with friends and relatives, you are exposed to a higher number of probing questions and advice. In an attempt to “help”, many people actually say things that may be hurtful (and maybe it wouldn’t even seem unkind at other times). We hope that you will find ways to enjoy each other and celebrate who you are today while keeping those hopes for the future.
The interesting thing about family gatherings is that although you can rejoice in how fortunate you are, you might also be reminded of the losses in your life. Feeling sadness for what you do not have, is a very normal response. I encourage you to take time for yourself, to acknowledge your pain and honor your sadness. By allowing yourself to experience those emotions, you are able to live in the present and not dwell on the past. Then after you get through the holiday season, we will work hard together on your future. You remain at all times in our thoughts and prayers.
We wish you a very Merry Christmas and a New Year of abundant blessings.
and the staff at PARINTS